What is a Pseudo-relationship?

The “parang kayo, pero hindi” stage. Others call it MU or mutual understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo-boyfriends/girlfriends. Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers. Pwedeng may verbal agreement, pwedeng wala. One or both of you may have admitted your feelings, posible din na hindi. You just let your gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari. Hindi kayo mag-on. Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.
This kind of “relationship” can happen at different stages for different reasons. It can happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya kunwa-kunwarian lang muna. Testing lang.
This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung naghahanap ka lang naman ng “kalaro.” Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala talagang kasiguraduhan.
So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong setup ganoong hindi naman sigurado kung may patutunguhan?
Iba’t ibang dahilan. Pwedeng for fun lang. Pwedeng “buti na iyan kesa wala” or pwede na iyang “pantawid-gutom.” Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa kunwa-kunwarian.
For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be fun, if all you are after for is that “kilig” feeling.
No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn’t commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they weren’t ready to commit.
Sasabihin nila “okay na iyun, kesa wala.”
Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong kung kamusta araw ko. Iyong kapag tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the real thing, pwede na itong pagtiyagaan.
But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi ang lugi.
Una, you can’t ask him to commit. Since it’s not really a relationship, you can’t demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role in his life. You can’t expect him to be always there with you. And if you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to yourself. Ano ka ba niya para magselos?
Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him? You can’t be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na mahal ka rin niya. Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can’t. Because you’re not sure if he’ll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang. This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the relationship. Or if there is a relationship at all.
Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much? What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn’t? What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to find out that he is seeing other girls?
Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, when a disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan. Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no “us.” Meron lang “you and me,” hindi “us.”
Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh. Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo-relationship, hindi mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody else.
Ang hirap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then you’d end up hurting yourself in the process.
Pero pwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh. Pwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the feeling, without thinking of the consequences.
But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.
Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo. Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang “parang kayo pero hindi” stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang siya almost, but not quite.

Gusto ninyo malaman kung gaano ako kababaw?

Haaaaaay. Nagbabackread kasi ako ng mga posts ko sa tumblr. Tapos may nabasa ako na post ko dati. Ayun, ang babaw ko pala. Pero ngayon natututo na ako. Haaaaay. Inintindi ko na lang yung sarili ko nun. Ganun ata talaga pag tinamaan ng selos. Pero naiinis talaga ako sa sarili ko kasi ang babaw ko. As in! I-share ko sa inyo yung post kung saan narealize ko ang kababawan ko. Hahaha! :)))

 Dahil sayo, hindi ako nkpagdinner. Hinihintay kasi kitang mag-online. Ayoko umalis dito sa harap ng computer dahil for sure aagawin ng kapatid ko ito at gagamit na yun magdamag! Kaya di ako umalis dito, sarap pa naman ng ulam namin. Pork Adobo, ako pa nagluto nun kaya panigurado masarap talaga yun. Ngayon nagugutom ako, pero madaling araw na. Ayoko ng bumaba para lang kumain. Inaantok at nagugutom na ako, pero masama daw matulog ng busog kaya matutulog ako ng gutom. Haaaaaaaay. Kung ipinaalam mo lang sa’kin ng mas maaga edi sana, hindi ako gutom ngayon.

Eto pa. . . . .

Hindi na ako dadalaw sa wall mo sa facebook, nkakaistorbo ata ako sa matamis ninyong wall to wall. Hahaha! Sayang lungssssss, di ko makita wall ni gurlalooo eklavoooo! Banas. I posted something on your wall pa naman, pero I deleted it kasi nasapawan nung post nung girlalooo. Hahah. Sweet ng tawagan ninyo, HOY. hahah. Ang kati mo! Excited pumasok bukas? Sarap mo daw kasama eh, sa uulitin pa daw, ULIT ULITIN ninyo pa daw. Kthanksbye.

Last na 'to. . . .

May load po pero hindi sapat mag-unli eh. Sensya po ha hindi nakapagtext. Saka hindi din po ako mkkapag-online eh, maaga kasi pasok ko bukas. Goodmorning kit, goodnight na din.

Kfine. Excuses. WTF. Sana hindi na lang ako nag-unli eh? Hinintay kita mula kninang 8pm mag online, tapos… brrrrr! FYI, maaga din pasok ko bukas/mamaya. Aiyayayay! Ayos eh? Bahala ka na nga. Badtrip talaga ako sayo. Demanding much, GIRLFRIEND ka teh? hahahah! BV! So, mag-out na ako. Wala na pala akong hinihintay e. :|

Oh diba? Haaaay. May nakakaintindi kaya sa'kin kung bakit ako ganyan? :(((((

May gusto pala akong ikwento pero ewan ko ba kung may sense yun, nppraning na ako. Complicated kasi e. Haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay.

18 Straight hours with them :))

Actually nung July 16-17 pa ito nangyari, ngayon lang ako nagkaroon ng chance na ikwento. Hahaha. :))
So eto na, ikwento ko na with the help of our pictures :))

Around 5:30pm, pinuntahan ko sila sa St. Thomas Square kasi nandun sila nagkakantahan, super excited lang pagdating ko dun kasi ang tagal din namin di nagkita kasi nga lumipat na ako ng school. Ayun.

Syempre, super picture kami that day. Hihih :))
Ayun, kasama kasi ako sa overnight ng Execom ng DSB (theater org.) may team building kasi nun kinabukasan. Oryt. Medyo nagmamadali akong ikwento ito kasi may pasok ako mamaya. Hahaha. Kaya Let the picture do the talking oryt? :))

Ayun, before kami pumunta sa bahay nila Chiel, nagdinner muna kami. Sarap lang ng kinain namin. :)))

Ayun, super picture kami sa jeep. We're on our way to Chiel's house :))))

May lumaLOVETEAM pa habang nasa jeep kami. :))

Pero teka, magpapatalo ba naman ba ang AMONOY-SAMARITA Couple? hahah :))






Ang saya lang kasi medyo nabuo ang Girl Group namin, wala nga lang yung tatlo. Hihih. :))


Ayun, nagkaroon din kami ng chance ni Dianne na magkwentuhan. :))

It may have ended but the memory lives on. :))

July 16, 2011. Pinanuod namin ang last part ng Epic Series ng Harry Potter. Ayun sobrang saya pero at the same time, sobrang lungkot din. Haaaay. Ayun, I will share some of our pictures :))

Ayun, yabang namin nakaIMAX! hahaha. :)) Syempre, last na eh, sulitin na dapat! Pero di ako masyado natuwa parang okay lang din naman kung di na kami nag IMAX hahahah. Natuwa lang ako sa part dun sa Gringotts Bank, parang nasa roller coaster ako nun e. haha. Saka dun sa abo ni Voldemort nung namatay sya. Galing lang ng effects! :)))

Oh Harry! :))))






After watching kumain kami sa Shakeys, super busog! Monster meal ba naman ang inorder namin ee. hahah. SULIT! :)))

All is well :)

Nakakatawa lang isipin na ung taong minahal mo dati ng sobra, ngayon eh isa na lang parte ng iyong nakaraan na ayaw mo ng balikan. Hindi naman bitterness ung tamang term, siguro lang kasi wala ng sense para pag-usapan pa - alalahanin kumbaga. Kasi once you go thru all the things that happened before, babalik ka lang dun sa stage na nasasaktan ka dahil iniwan ka. Lalalim ung emosyon, at mabubuo sa puso mo ung galit… Galit na wala naman idudulot na mabuti sayo, makakasakit pa sa kapwa mo.

Sabi nga nila, bago ka magbuklat ng panibagong chapter ng buhay mo, siguraduhin mong tapos ka na sa nakaraan. So once and for all, let out your feelings. I-message mo ung ex mo, murahin mo hanggang gusto mo, magwala ka, umiyak o magpakasawa sa alak… kung un lang ang tanging paraan para mailabas mo ung sakit na nararamdaman mo. Para pagtapos ng lahat, ok ka na. Ung masasabi mo sa sarili mong wala na talaga.

Tama naman kasi ung sinasabi nila, minsan inlove na lang tayo sa ideya na mahal pa naten sila. Baket? eh kasi ayaw mong bitiwan ung memories. Ung bagay na pinanghahawakan mo kasi umaasa ka na isang araw pwede pang ibalik ang lahat ng un. Pilit mong inaalala ung mga panahon kung paano ka niya napasaya at iniiyakan mo pa din ung panahong sinaktan ka nya.

Walang tao ang hindi makakayanan mag move on. Siguro hindi man ganun kabilis ang progress gaya ng sa iba, pero KAYA MO. Minsan kasi ang sakit o lungkot, psychological na lang yan eh.. it’s all in the mind. Nabuhay ka sa mundong ito nung mga panahong hindi mo pa siya kilala. Kakayanin mo ulit mabuhay kahit wala na sya.

Masarap magmahal, masakit. Ganun talaga. Loving is just a cycle. Hanggang hindi mo pa nakikita ung taong nakalaan para sayo, pagdadaanan mo ung mga bagay na napagdaanan mo na. Kaya kung ako sayo, wag kang matatakot magmahal. Ang pagmamahal ay para lang pagsakay sa kabayo. Sa una nakakatakot, tapos dahan dahan. Pag sanay ka na mabilis na hanggang sa hindi mo namamalayan naeenjoy mo na pala. Cyempre kapag nalalaglag ka, masakit. Andun ung trauma na ayaw mo na, pero just keep on riding the horse… eventually matutunan mo rin lahat ng dapat mong malaman.

Just enjoy life. Huwag mong pasanin ang bigat at problema ng mundo. Hindi lang ikaw ang taong nahihirapan o nasasaktan pagdating sa pag-ibig. This is the downside of life, EMBRACE IT. Let go of the things that makes you hurt and welcome the things that makes you happy. :)

Mga lalaking ipinanganak na TORPE

Bakit kaya may mga lalaking ganito? Hindi ba nila alam na marami silang pinapalampas na pagkakataon? Eh paano na lang kung gusto din sya nung babaeng gusto niya? Hinihintay lang siya, ayun wala tuloy nangyayari. Laging dinadaan sa tingin wala naman napupuntahan. Sa tingin ko ang mga taong ganito eto yung mga matataas ang pride, takot sa rejection. Madaming sitwasyon sa pag-ibig na kumplikado at ayokong mapasukan, pero eto na yata ang pinakaayaw ko sa lahat. Saktong sakto yung kanta eh noh? Haaaaaay. Gustong gusto ko din itong music video na ito syempre dahil kay JM De Guzman.

 

 "At kahit mahal kita, wala akong magagawa. Tanggap ko 'to sinta, PANGARAP LANG KITA."

                                                                                                              -Torpe

Kaya mo bang mahalin ang isang taong alam mong mawawala din sayo?

Line yan sa upcoming movie ni Sam Milby and KC Concepcion. Kung may magtatanong man sa'kin nyan isa lang ang isasagot ko, KAYA KO...KAKAYANIN KO. Sa buhay walang kasiguraduhan, kaya nga may salitang FAITH. Kahit mawala sayo yung taong yun, ang ibig sabihin ba nun eh mawawala na din yung pagmamahal mo sa kanya, hindi naman diba? Based on my experience, if that person left you there will be a part of him that remains in your heart. Gaano mo man ipilit na kalimutan yun, nandun lang yun. Kaya nga may nga taong nahihirapang magmove on or nkamove on na daw pero akala lang nila, kasi kapag nakita nila ulit yung taong naging parte ng buhay nila, yung taong minahal nila ng sobra-sobra, kahit taon na ang nakakalipas lahat yun manunumbalik sa isang iglap lang. Kaya nga may mga risks pag nagmamahal, kasi walang madali sa buhay, kailangan mo matutong lumaban. Marami sa'tin hindi alam ang salitang pag-ibig. Basta may boyfriend/girlfriend, gora lang sila. Ano nga ba ang pag-ibig? Madami ng nasaktan sa isang salitang yan, madami ng umasa't kinitil ang sariling buhay para lang dyan. Ang tanong lang naman eh, worth it ba ang lahat ng yun? Nakakatakot ang salitang pag-ibig pero marami pa din ang may gusto nun dahil na din sa salitang FAITH. Madaming beses na din akong nagmahal pero hindi naiwasan na nasaktan din ako, sa daming beses nun, palagi kong sinasabi na natuto na ako pero hindi pa din pala, kasi naulit pa yun nagmahal, nasaktan, nakalimot, nagmahal, nasaktan, nakalimot. . . .walang katapusan, paulit-ulit, nakakapagod. Sa kabila nun, magmamahal ka pa din, kasi umaasa ka na this time magiging okay na. Bakit ka magmamahal ng isang taong iiwan at sasaktan ka din sa huli? ang katapat na tanong nyan eh, paano mo naman nalaman na iiwan at sasaktan ka nya? Oh diba? Nasa atin lang naman din kasi ang sagot sa mga tanong na yan eh, hindi ka naman siguro iiwan kung ginawa mo ang lahat di bale na lang talaga kung kasing sama na siya ni Gary ng Mara Clara. (hahaha) So, i-aapply ko ulit sa nangyari sa'kin, so may ginawa akong mali, nagkulang ako kaya ako iniwan at sinaktan nun? Sa palagay ko, oo. Mali na sobra ko syang minahal. Next time ko na lang ikkwento yun ah, mahaba at complicated story yun, baka kasi sa makakabasa nito sabihin impokrita ako na yun ang kasalanan ko, sobra akong nagmahal. Actually hindi lang kasi ako iniwan at sinaktan. Niloko ako. Haaaaaaaay. Kaya sa mga magmamahal dyan. Take the risks. Hwag kang matakot masaktan, kasi walang taong nagmahal na hindi nasaktan, parte yun ng buhay pag-ibig. Ang pag-ibig lang naman kasi ang totoo sa mundo. Lahat tayo kayang gawin yun, ang magmahal, pero marami sa'tin hindi kayang panindigan ang salitang PAG-IBIG.

A Crazy Little Thing Called Love

“All of us have someone who is hidden in the bottom of the heart, When we think of him, we will feel like ummm. Always feel a little pain inside. But we still want to keep him. Even though I don’t know where he is today, what he is doing. But he is the one who makes me know this……A Crazy Little Thing Called Love"
                                                                  -Nam

I've watched "A Crazy Little Thing Called Love" starring Mario Maurer (P'shone) and Baifern Pimchanok Luewisedpaiboon (P'nam). It pinched my heart when I finished watching this movie because this is the love story that I wished was mine. The girl falls in love with the school heartthrob and does crazy things so that the guy will notice her. Even to the extent of changing her school image from uncool to a desirable young lady. The story revolves on the typical high school life which i think most if not all could relate to. I have to admit that this movie brought me back to the memory lane. Remembering high school days, the little crazy thing i did for my crush, the teasing and of course the realization that he might not like you back. We will never know what they really felt because we never asked or told them about it. That's the magic of it all and that is how high school is.

 

(This was the most heartbreaking scene and starting from here, I couldn't stop my tears from falling.)

She did all those things in the book for Shone, but somehow it sort of didn't work out. :(

TWIST IN THE STORY:

It's almost your typical love story set in high school but it had different touch when the movie had shown Shone's perspective and that's when I feel the shiver. What would you feel when your crush, the school heartthrob, has been your biggest stalker taking photographs and making a scrapbook of you? Behold, my favorite part in the movie:

He pretended that the flower was from his friend.

 

He saw Top confessed and it really hurts him.

He told Pin that she looks the same "Snow white with dental braces" but what he really thought is Nam looks the same, cute as always. :)

 

 

If only they did overcome the fear sooner, they both wouldn't have gotten hurt.

 

 

  It was really sweet of Shone to have waited for her all those years.

 

Did you used to hold someone's hand, like the squids?

Once, an awkward-face girl was falling from the stage,so I held her hand.

 In the end, I'm glad they still end up together. It's not the ending I was expecting though. But still, I can't deny that it's a wonderful movie. Who would have thought that a movie with a super simple plot can make me cry. All I can say is, the movie had this huge effect on me that even now, when this movie is mentioned or when I think about it, my whole body just seem to shiver and I can feel all tingly inside. I can also feel the tears that are forming in my eyes when I remember how Shone and Nam overcame their fear because of this Crazy Little Thing Called Love :)

Expectation vs. Reality

EXPECTATION - eager anticipation

REALITY - state of being actual or true

Last night I watched a movie entitled “500 days of Summer“, a story about boy meets girl in a not-so-ordinary-setting.  As what the narrator said, this is not your typical love story with happy endings, which I couldn’t agree for more.  This movie made me realized some things and ponder some thoughts in finding “the one” & all things about L.O.V.E.

After I watched the flick,  it shed light in my views about destiny, soul mate and all things related to love.  When it comes to soul mate it made me realized that there is really bound for each and everyone of us.  We should not be in a rush to find love because it will just come.  Just learn to be patient and have an open mind and do not just jump into a relationship just for the sake of having one.  I somehow agree in the movie that having someone you share the same wavelengths doesn’t mean he or she is your destined partner.

One of my favorite scenes in the movie was when Tom’s expectation and reality was shown in a split screen.   This is where all his expectations did not turn into reality and all he got were disappointment and heartaches.  I could absolutely relate of what have Tom felt during that day.  I have been there to that kind of situation wherein I expected a lot from that certain person and in the end I was totally wrong and just reading between the lines excessively.  This scene moves me big time! It made me wake up and gather my thoughts to comprehend completely the saying “thou shall not expect too much”.  Yeah, one should not put high expectations towards your apple of the eye as this is where false hopes start to sink in your fantasy world.  And then when expectation does not transform into what should it have to be in the real world, disappointments, heartache and excruciating pain suddenly wrap around your heart.  It is better to hope than to expect to avoid being upset and displeasure-kind-of-mood.  There fore I conclude, one should have the courage to face reality even though it hurts because this is our alarm clock to stop living in the world of fools.   We must face the harsh truth of life even though it will give us a heart-tearing-into-a-million-pieces emotion when expectation turns-out-into-a-total-failure as it meets reality.  But  believe me it will spare you from more hurt and much pains.  It may be easy being said than done but that is how life is! Learn to struggle the awful truth of reality and cherish every lesson you encounter as you journey in the road of life.

His name is JM Sabariaga. Ultimate crush ko yan sa tumblr! Walang magawa so I edited our pictures, malay mo dumating ang isang araw at magkita kami at magkaroon na kami talaga ng pictures TOGETHER! hahaha LOL! Kinikilig ako! heheh. Madami pa akong crush sa tumblr ee pero siya talaga ang pinakacrush ko, saka yung iba kasi taken na. GRR! Lahat ng taken na crush ko eh naging crush ko lang din dahil kay March Belle Fiel (talagang full name?) heheh :D So ayan, kung sino man makakita kay JM ipagbigay alam ninyo lang sa'kin eto ang number ko 0926******* HAHAHAH! :D

This is so sad! :(

To the one that holds her heart,

This is going to sound so very cliche, but if you break her heart, I will run you over with my car. Now I’m pretty sure you have no idea who I am, but trust me I know all about you. You see, I have many friends, in many places. And I just wanted to make sure that the one who is dating the girl that I love with all my heart is in good hands. Since you have not received any threats yet, I guess you’re an alright guy.

But here’s a couple tips for you, always text her back, she gets really frustrated if you don’t. Don’t ever hang up on her without saying good-bye first, I’ve done that countless times and she gets really pissed off. She has certain days where she has to watch her shows like Pretty Little Liars and One Tree hill, make sure you don’t plan anything on those days. Surprise her, she likes them. She’s only ticklish in some spots and sometime she isn’t ticklish at all. She’s a fighter haha. And if she’s quoting Taylor Swift, either you’re in really big trouble or you’re making her happy.

And when you hug her, remember that you are hugging the most beautiful girl in the world and that you should always hug her back tighter. If she argues with her, argue back. But give in to her sometimes cause she can be a real bitch when she wants to be. Don’t hurt her, that will be the worst thing that you will ever do.

You have no idea how lucky you are to call her yours. So cherish it. You have the honor of holding her hand. You have the privilege to kiss her when you want. You have the ability to make her happy. She isn’t just another girl, she’s that girl that can make you the happiest person ever if you give her the chance. She’s worth everything. Everything. Take care of her.

Sincerely,

The one who lost her

- - -> It's true that you never know what you have until it's gone. We should learn not to take the one we love for granted, life is short. Love like there's no tomorrow. Treasure your love ones. Make her feel special everyday. :D 

Load ko this coming semester :D

Wednesday and Friday (WALA AKONG BREAKTIME!)

Subject                                            Time

Entrepreneurial Mngt. (MGT 322)              1:00pm-2:30pm 

Administrative Office Mngt. (PROS 2)       2:30pm-4:00pm

Recruitment and Selection  (PROS 1)          4:00pm-5:30pm

Income Taxation   (TAX 1)                        5:30pm-7:00pm

Tuesday and Thursday

Business Communication (Eng. 4)                2:00pm-3:30pm

Advance Computer (IT 121)                       5:30pm-7:00pm

Every Thursday

Personal Leadership (Eu 311)                     11:00am-12:00pm

Falling in love and Insecurity

Ang babaw ng story pero okay lang kinilig pa din naman ako. hihi. I like the way the story illustrates insecurity. It shows that such a monster grows within us when we pay too much attention on wrong things people say about us and wrong things we think about ourselves. Magnifying our flaws and focusing on our imperfections isn’t the best past time to be absorbed in. Ayun, dun lang umikot ang buong story. haha. Parang minadali, Director Mae Czarina Cruz attempts to fake a kissing scene toward the last few seconds of the movie. Hahah! She shouldn’t have.

I’ve just quoted some lines in the movie “Catch me I’m in love”

Mataas talaga standards ko kaya hindi ako papatol sa katulad nyo.

Kahit paulit-ulit na sinasabi ko na ok lang yan, ok lang yan. Wala e, nilalamon ako ng insecurities ko

Pakiramdam ko kasi anliit liit ko kapag kasama kita.

Ikaw ang bagay para sa ‘kin. Ikaw ang importante para sa ‘kin. Kaya please wag mong gawin ‘to.

You made me a better person. Mahal na mahal kita

She taught me to appreciate you, pero wala na sya ngayon.

Wag kang papaapekto kung mahal mo talaga sya.

Oo naging insecure ako koon dahil sa tingin ng ibang tao sa ‘kin, lalo n ng iniwan mo ‘ko